SunZu – Conversation, Dialogue or Monologue?

SunZu – Conversation, Dialogue or Monologue?

Sometimes, getting going is the toughest thing...

...Like starting a conversation with the gorgeous man or woman at the bar to whom you’re attracted yet hesitate to engage with, in case they reject you or you go blank and can’t think of anything interesting to say.

You do, at heart, know what to do, you may even know how to do it (to initiate the conversation, that is!) but you can’t quite overcome the nervousness and fear. In fact, your heart is not working with your head, and the sneaky inner critic is feeding you that old line about ‘not being good enough'. 

So, do you have another drink, and gain some courage that way? Do you compose your chat-up line carefully and confidently? Or do you go blank anyway - allow the opportunity to slip away and remain quiet and lonely on your own territory, never knowing what excitement and joy might have ensued if you’d overcome your doubts and gone ahead? Or is it something else that needs to happen?

It can be the same in the working world for writers, for business people out networking, for salespeople – in fact, for anyone in certain circumstances that leave them feeling vulnerable and uncertain – the metaphorical blank sheet of paper fills your mind and heart with terror and you don’t take the action needed to create whatever it is you want to achieve. 

The best advice for writers is to start writing something – anything – just get words on the paper, and allow what emerges to emerge. It works, too; and in almost any context. The Muse, your Muse, will show up if you put in the work and expect The Muse to do so.  Famously prolific U.S. author, Elmore Leonard, once said that all good writing is rewriting – and that his books were so successful and readable because of what he left out rather than what he kept in, so having to get it perfect first time doesn’t matter. In fact, if you wait to be perfect, you’ll never do anything, you’ve just got to get going and expect to improve, keep refining and get momentum going.

So what stops someone getting started with SunZu?

SunZu isn’t a blank sheet; there’s already a lot happening here.

But it is different; it is a change for those who have been migrated from the previous incarnation (and human beings prove time and again that they aren’t all that enamoured of change!)

The platform does need a bit of time and patience to understand; it’s developing all the time, it’s a living responsive thing, and like all of us, it will always be perfectly imperfect, that delicious paradox of life! 

The people using the platform, especially those who are not actively engaging yet, ‘just looking’, also need time and patience and understanding, for and from themselves, and for and from everyone involved in this venture. The social media world is crowded, noisy, always-on, demanding of attention and time.  Deciding where to engage and invest needs some strategic thinking.

 

SunZu is different. It offers a lot, and it does need a two-way, even a multi-way, effort.

Community grows from mutual respect, integrity, openness, trust, genuine interest and caring. We need to care about each other. That means caring about each other’s wants and needs, both with regard to business growth and with regard to the underpinning of wellbeing that sustains growth in human life. That means becoming a tribe.

Seth Godin, bestselling author, marketing guru, inspirational force, suggests ‘Go Make Something Happen’ and says:

‘Great leaders create movements by empowering the tribe to communicate. They establish the foundation for people to make connections, as opposed to commanding people to follow them….the gradual but inexorable growth of the tribe a loosely coordinated movement of activists that gained in force until it couldn’t be stopped.’

But you’ve got to get involved to make it happen.

The simple thing here on SunZu is to contribute content – snippets of news, short thought pieces, stories, articles and requests for information. They don’t have to be long articles or research papers, nor do they need to be concentrated on your own area of expertise.

Content that:

  • Creates value,
  • Offers solutions,
  • Suggests options,
  • Shares challenges and
  • Provokes new thinking. 

Content that tells stories, amuses, entertains and stimulates - and requests a response, encouraging further contribution. Which could mean leaving a response here and now...

Responding to content that people craft really is a good next step – it’s always great to be acknowledged, we all appreciate that, and it takes only a short time to tell someone you have read their post, to like it and vote it up. Make comments, expand the discussions. You don’t have to agree, as long as you question in a fair and honest way, you can stimulate debate and bring a healthy exchange to life.

Connection is key – adopt an open policy of connecting with many people and get interested in their story. More about the power of connection next time…

Christine Miller 

The Abundance of Social Media
The Abundance of Social Media

David Bozak

davidbozak

Wow

Very inspirational.

1 comments

Mary Southworth

marysouthworth

Just started

Thanks for this reassuring and informative article, Christine, I have been hovering, waiting, and decided to get started today.

As usual you are spot on with your insights :-)

3 comments

Carolyn Williams

carolynwilliams-253741

Just Do It! Action It

@In fact, if you wait to be perfect, you’ll never do anything, you’ve just got to get going and expect to improve, keep refining and get momentum going.

 

Great motivationial piece Christine. Great leaders are those who can motivate other's to 'act'. You are one. 

I read some lovely motivational tips on Sunil Bali's weekend blog. 

  • Think It!
  • Ink It!
  • Do It!
  • Review It!

We need to connect with our passion and enthusiasm and flow......

I hope I my blogs provoke new thinking.  

 

 

Warm Wishes for a fabulous Wednesday with Sparkle!

Carolyn Williams

Moving minds, provoking new thinking when doing business
www.cardiffboardroom.co.uk
www.lifestyle-online.co.uk

 

 

1 comments

Richard Flewitt

richard_flewitt

A lovely essay on social media engagement

Liked and shared

thanks Christine

1 comments

John Toal

sunzuscotland

Inspirational

Thanks for sharing Christine, many of the aspects of approaching people & situations need some quick thinking too #Wingingit works sometimes as I've found with Direct sales & meeting people for that first time, Sunzu offers something different & allows people to read a little about you & your Business before contacting or creating conversation, I'm very much a people person & in my adult life have experienced that "Nervous feeling", last nights meet & greet for Sunzu Scotland as an example, meeting poeple was actually easiest part, but what I was going to say was going round in my head, I wrote some notes & glanced at them as I was speaking.

Thankfully the meet went very well indeed & looking forward to the next Sunzu Scotland meeting, as too are the others who may also join Sunzu very soon.

1 comments

Mick Murphy

mickmurphy

Great stuff

as usual, Christine, thanks for your generous sharing  :-)

Mick

2 comments

Mike "Freddie" Gordon

freddienoname-93363

Attraction .. or distraction ?

I think I may know the "bar" you are referring to ? It's recently had a major refurb and has been offering all sorts of new stuff to attract social business members. The "lighting" is a little subdued for my liking but I'm slowly getting to recognise the regulars. One particular gal caught my "attention" last night. It took us only moments to form an Alliance .. and we get to have our first Hangout early next week !

I'll keep y'all posted ;o))  

1 comments

Tina Jonasen

thinkinnewareas

Spot on !!!!

We are soo lucky having your way with words to guide us dear Christine!!!

And I just love the wisdom of Seth Godin:

"Great leaders create movements by empowering the tribe to communicate. They establish the foundation for people to make connections, as opposed to commanding people to follow them….the gradual but inexorable growth of the tribe a loosely coordinated movement of activists that gained in force until it couldn’t be stopped."

Many here would certainly learn a lot if they read his book: "Tribes" !!!

3 comments

Helen Winder

helenwinder

Outstanding and spot on

Absolutely outstanding article and spot on  :)

you are gooooooooood :)

Thanks for sharing this article with us all.  I am sure it will assist many.

Looking forward to the next article ;)

H

3 comments

CHRIS VOSS

chrisvoss

Awesome!

1 comments